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I'm waiting for an invitation, smartass.

All right. Fine. Look, zdecker, this gal was in a five-year relationship. One doesn't get over that long a relationship is a short amount of time. And chances are good that the apple of your eye might like to "be alone" for awhile before she even thinks about starting another relationship. So my advice to you is to be patient--really patient--and give her some time to find herself. This is something a lot of women do after the end of a long relationship--we need to get reacquainted with ourselves. That's because we sometimes have this strange tendency often to define ourselves according to the men we dating and end up losing a strong sense of individuality. So give it some time, but see if you can't get a little information out of her in the meantime, like how long she thinks it'll be before she starts dating again.

Damn, you beat me too it.

I go and eat dinner and look what happens.

swoop. swoop fast.
actually, my mild mannered friend, the advice already expressed by your fellow forum happeners seems the best. though i didn't actually read it, i spellchecked puddlecat's post, and it was all ok, so hell, that means it's right in my book. however, shirly temples might suffice, to woo your new friend. don't use Code Red mountain dew, it leads to unsatisfactory (as always) diahrea.
tito

That sounded like actual advice, PM.

Maybe you are a genius. 

No no, PuddleMonkey is a genius.

That sounded like actual advice, PM.

Maybe you are a genius. 

No no, PuddleMonkey is a genius.

I am! I am! 

She's also very modest.

Two words: revenge sex. If she's looking for it, give it to her. In spades. The angrier, the better.

But don't expect a relationship out of this one. If she was in a five-year relationship that didn't involve marriage, she's damaged goods. All she'll do is compare you to her ex. Plus five years is a long time to accumulate baggage. In every sense of the word.

To sum up: revenge sex. Then reacquaint her with the sorrow of being dumped. Quickly.

(No, I don't really mean any of that...

...or do I?)

Yout avatar is very appropriate 

Didn't he say that the guy who is no longer in the picture is one of his friends? 

It would make the revenge sex more poignant for her and more painful for the ex, but would screw up his relationship with his bud.

Unless he doesn't care about that.   

Nah, I'm good friends with the young lady.  The guy's not my friend.  I'd probably say hi to him if I saw him walking down the street, but we've never done anything together without her around. 

Revenge sex... 

I don't know if she'd be looking for revenge though as I don't know the story behind their breakup yet.  I'm going to see her tomorrow night so hopefully I can get the full story then.

Big important question
How old is this girl?
Is this one of those things where she started dating this guy when she was 15 and so he is like the only BF she ever had?
I'd need to know the context before weighing in with an opinion.

"Piltdownman84"Now for the real advice.  Its had to say how long you should wait.  The problem, with people breaking up with serious relationships is the are on the rebound.  This might sound terrible but they are weak and vulnerable,  not just to you,  but to everyone,  so you have to take advantage of the situation.  Becuase if you don't act,  its likely that she(or was it he) will be back in another serious relationship,  and then your screwed.  Because of this I say that you should start spending as much time as possible with this person.  Don't push a relationship,  don't even let her know that you want one,  but go the extra mile to show that you are realtionship material  in a very transparent way.  You don't want her to think you are trying to hook it up,  you want her to think "wow i never realized what zdecker is such a good catch."  Another reason for spending this time together is to sink anyone elses chances.  You need to be able to step in and speed things up if anyone else starts moving in.  Then when it feels right,  and saddly I don't have a formula or number for it,  move in and make your move.[/quote wrote:

Kinda of what I was trying to say... but you know, actually made sense. 

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