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Leaving your door open is always good, especially early on like folks have suggested. Also going to floor events (like dorm trips and whatnot) is a great way to get to know the area around your school if you don't already. And to get to know your neighbors.

As for dormcest, well, it's doable if you can be an adult about it. I hooked up with a girl on my floor at the end of Freshman year, and we're still together.

But then again, messy breakups really suck when the person happens to live across the hall from you, so your mileage may vary.

benwards wrote:

Leaving your door open is always good, especially early on like folks have suggested. Also going to floor events (like dorm trips and whatnot) is a great way to get to know the area around your school if you don't already. And to get to know your neighbors.

As for dormcest, well, it's doable if you can be an adult about it. I hooked up with a girl on my floor at the end of Freshman year, and we're still together.

But then again, messy breakups really suck when the person happens to live across the hall from you, so your mileage may vary.

No kidding.  there were days i didn't want to go home because i knew my ex lived in the same building. 

sevenofeleven wrote:

Tria wrote:

No, she's 5' 2" and 200 lbs.

I saw roughly 3 attractive girls at my jc.

I'd hit it...
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with the ugly stick a few more times?

sosumi wrote:

About five seconds of research should've told you Duke revolves around basketball.

I thought everyone knew that Duke had the ultimate basketball program... ahhh, I guess that's the blindness of a fanatic.

Marc wrote:

5. There are so many people smarter than you all around you. Lose the attitude.
9. If you spend more time on UT2k4 than meeting people the first 4 weeks, you'll find getting to know people becomes hard.
17. Cellphones dont have breathalyzers attached to them yet; be responsible.
21. Your freshman year you want a smurf buddy; not a girlfriend. You're suppose to be trying new things; and its a lot less time consuming when you're suppose to be studying anyways. 
22. If you see someone you think is hot but has a sig. other at home.... wait till Thanksgiving, they'll break up. beginning of 2nd semester at latest.

Just thought I'd say I agree with these...  But a certain train of thought.  Your freshman year is about trying new things; don't hesitate to do them.  If you're tied down, to a girlfriend, a game, your Mac or a goldfish named Claus, you won't be totally open to new things.  Which is important if you want to settle happily at college.

One of my friends got married a year into her college career.  She moved to the burbs to live with the guy, straight after living with her folks for a year.  As a result, she's never had a "college" experience, it's always been work, school, home.  She doesn't have any school friends.  She doesn't do any school activities.  You shouldn't get tied down to anyone or anything at first or else you're really gonna miss out.  IMO, of course (tho of course that's an extreme example).

Last edited by Tria (2005-06-28 10:47 pm)

Tria wrote:

Marc wrote:

5. There are so many people smarter than you all around you. Lose the attitude.
9. If you spend more time on UT2k4 than meeting people the first 4 weeks, you'll find getting to know people becomes hard.
17. Cellphones dont have breathalyzers attached to them yet; be responsible.
21. Your freshman year you want a smurf buddy; not a girlfriend. You're suppose to be trying new things; and its a lot less time consuming when you're suppose to be studying anyways. 
22. If you see someone you think is hot but has a sig. other at home.... wait till Thanksgiving, they'll break up. beginning of 2nd semester at latest.

Just thought I'd say I agree with these...  But a certain train of thought.  Your freshman year is about trying new things; don't hesitate to do them.  If you're tied down, to a girlfriend, a game, your Mac or a goldfish named Claus, you won't be totally open to new things.  Which is important if you want to settle happily at college.

One of my friends got married a year into her college career.  She moved to the burbs to live with the guy, straight after living with her folks for a year.  As a result, she's never had a "college" experience, it's always been work, school, home.  She doesn't have any school friends.  She doesn't do any school activities.  You shouldn't get tied down to anyone or anything at first or else you're really gonna miss out.  IMO, of course (tho of course that's an extreme example).

i spent my four years in college studying, assistant managing a hotel, working a lawsuit for an office building (both family businesses that needed help after sept. 11.) and keeping my parents from killing each other (between my sister's accident that left her with no long term memory and major muscular atrophy and their subsequent divorce) - all at the same time. sometimes you have no choice but to grow up.

the sig other back home thing is a crock.  My buck and quarters worth to follow:

It is okay to fall in love whenever you want.  My (then fiance) and I made it through the college years with only each other and don't feel slighted at all.  Our engagement lasted 6 years and 8 months and four of those years were full time college AND full time work.  We graduated and then we got married.  We will be married 5 years this year (That's almost 12 years for those of you keeping score).

Just chose what it is you think is important to/for you and work from there.

fizzwinkus wrote:

fizzwinkus wrote:

sometimes you have no choice but to grow up.

Tria wrote:

It doesn't mean you have to be a recluse with no friends at school.

thank you for arguing with a sometimes?

thank you for telling us your sob story. let me get you a tissue.

Tria wrote:

And I've spent my 3 college years studying and working 1-2 jobs.  It doesn't mean you have to be a recluse with no friends at school.

Same here.  I had a little more free time being at a CC though...

Marc wrote:

12. You will get fat if you dont do anything but study, eat and get drunk.

And/or go completely insane too...  Especially if you have a job like mine... Last thing I want to do after 8 hours of editing at work is go home and type a paper, to class and sit for another two hours, or, the absolute worst, going home/to school to EDIT a school project... it is the smurfing suck.  I've done last minute projects in the middle of the night and actually gotten up and walked around the block in my neighborhood (a relatively safe place thankfully) around 1 or 2am a few times because I couldn't take it anymore...

Last edited by sevenofeleven (2005-06-30 1:39 am)

yes and sometimes people have more time free than they know what to do with. Whats your point?

pretty much.

ok my answer: anecdotal evidence is worthless. and your case in particular is an extreme case and does not apply to a discussion on general advice to incomings. In fact your tale doesn't really define 'growing up' in my opinion, but thats besides the point.

So really I think your just telling your sob story. either because you want recognition that you had a hard time, lost your youthfulness, that we should be proud of you for handling it so nicely, or some other motive

Last edited by Marc (2005-06-30 5:00 pm)